Alumni: keep your distance from QU

By on September 28, 2011

During my recent treks to Aunchies and Toad’s, I’ve spotted several male graduates who still think it’s acceptable to creep all over Hamden and New Haven. Well boys, you may not look as bad as the random 40-year-olds who show up at Toad’s, but it still looks like you’re not moving on with your life.

And while the bars may be a safe place to hit on girls since everyone there is at least 21 years old, Toad’s is a total free-for-all. Truthfully, the 17-year-old girl can look like she’s 21 with a great push-up bra and a really good fake ID. And no graduate wants to be in that awkward position when he tries to bring the girl back to his room at the end of the night.

The truth is he doesn’t have a room because he already graduated, and he’s really just crashing at his younger friend’s place who’s still a Quinnipiac student.

Of course, there are certain acceptable reasons for graduates to return to the local hot spots. For starters, Alumni Weekend is a perfectly understandable time to return to the area, and nobody is judged for it. And there is no shame in weekend visits here and there to catch up with old friends.

However, the judgment begins when graduates continuously show up weekend after weekend to party like the good old days. Don’t show up for Halloween, don’t show up for St. Patrick’s Day, and, most definitely, please do not show up for May Weekend. Unfortunately, you no longer have the right to call it an official Quinnipiac holiday.

I get it – most people don’t like change because it’s scary and unknown. And I assume that the graduates who are still trying to pass as current Quinnipiac students are just trying to hold on to their college experience for as long as possible.

Just like someone in their 30s shouldn’t still be living at home, someone who has graduated from college shouldn’t be driving back to school every weekend to creep on younger girls. Plain and simple: four great years came and went, and now it’s time to spread those wings and leave the college nest once and for all.

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141 Comments

  1. orly

    September 28, 2011 at 9:35 am

    Were you drunk when you wrote this?

    • qu grad students

      September 28, 2011 at 4:39 pm

      What’s even funnier is that you have not once stopped to think that anyone was a grad student almost half the programs at qu require at least an extra year after graduation. Half of the graduates don’t go to be so called creepy bc trust me they aren’t there to see you but most of the time to see old friends and people they know who are grad students. So don’t comment on things u don’t know about

    • Transferred out of QU, but I still think you're a bitch.

      September 28, 2011 at 7:55 pm

      So, I did go to the legendary QU and lived the drunken dream for two years and NEVER step foot into Toad’s except for a concert and as soon as I moved on to the second most artistic school (says Newsweek)–Emerson College, and I have to say, I missed those bros. It made my former QU education a horny and wildly hilarious time to see such fuckery in one large lax dude, and boy, i miss them travelling in herds. When you move onto the real world and lose your youthful tan permanently, and your smile turns into a thin and straight sarcastic line, I dare you to bitch about seeing clumsy dudes. They only end up more on drugs, more drunk, and with gross bellies that will eventually match yours. You might even marry one of these guys, or his geeky opposite, and think he’s some successful, strapping young sweetheart and secretly he’s got a kiddie porn addiction, and raves the craigslist killer at night. So, I’m going to go out on a limb and say, I think you’re manifesting the wrong crowd here.
      For journalism’s sake I dare a bitch to write this counter article, but I’ll probably do it, because no offense “Nikki,” but you’re just the standard “Quinnipiac Girl” that Yale-intellects bump into and make fun of all over the country. And even if you don’t tell anyone you went there, don’t worry, you’ll forever just look like that type. Keep on keepin’ on Jersey girl, that’s one more fist-pumping-dumb-hockey-juniors-27 year-old for me :)

    • Journalism?

      September 28, 2011 at 10:39 pm

      Hey Chronicle,

      I’m in my 6th year at QU. After 4yrs as a journalist and now 2 in the MBA program, it’s articles like this that turn me off from your paper.

      A. It is filled with anger
      B. Does nothing for the community, except make QU’ers look bad
      C. It’s a waste of time

      There are far more important stories to cover like:
      A. Why QU students are the 2nd most apathetic, but the QU polling institute is the most repeated poll in the country?
      B. Why did QU raise the meal plan only to see the Cafe increase their already over-priced food?
      C. What is QU really doing to help ease the parking problem?
      D. How much in debt QU is? They were about 90million in the hole 3 years ago before acquiring the North Haven campus.
      E. How to prevent your tab-it Q-Card from breaking? (If it is possible.)
      F. Calendar of future events going to happen on campus (in ’08 I missed Presidential Candidate Sen Dodds come to campus because the day after your paper wrote he came to campus instead of the week before he is coming to campus).

      Come on Chronicle. You already fill about 8 of your 12 pages with fluff. You have a job to do and in my 6 years at QU its articles like Ms. Fano’s that prove you are not doing your job and obligation to the QU community.

  2. Katie

    September 28, 2011 at 9:44 am

    I get that you are mostly talking about guys… but take another look at this after you graduate. If you’ve formed relationships with students younger than you.. and if you’ve had a meaningful fulfilling Quinnipiac experience then you should have… you’re going to miss them.
    If you’re lucky enough to live close to QU and are able to visit often, I’m willing to bet that you will.
    And as for people over 30 living at home… in this economy.. who are you to judge?
    Live a litle longer.. get a little wiser… and good luck finding a job after you graduate.

    • QU grad

      September 28, 2011 at 1:11 pm

      Katie read the comment posted below it might help you.

  3. QU Student 10.0...

    September 28, 2011 at 11:03 am

    I’m sorry, but this is flat out rude…Once a QU student, always a QU student. There is a family and a community here, and if they want to stop by for May Weekend, then let them! As Katie said, this article is a. arrogant and b. ignorant.

    • Sad 20 something

      September 28, 2011 at 12:00 pm

      She said there’s nothing wrong with the occasional visit here and there. Maybe these kids should stick around to take some extra reading classes!

      • QU Alum '10

        September 28, 2011 at 1:18 pm

        it is hard to find that when it is mentioned in passing in the article to be a main point when the title of the article is a blanket statement addressing all Alumni. Some of which I am sure could help the author of this article find a job, give them tips for applying to grad school, etc. because those said alumni are doing or have already done so. Its not all about coming back to party, sometimes it is about coming back to help your friends. Don’t make blanket judgments. I can promise you that not all QU alumni do that.

        And so what? they want to come back because they had a wonderful 4 years here. isn’t that saying something positive about the institution? I hope the undergrads at the time point fingers at YOU for wanting to do just what you are condemning others for doing.

  4. Sad 20 something

    September 28, 2011 at 11:50 am

    It is sad to see the kids who’ve graduated but haven’t moved on. Ya, college was fun, but on to the next step people!

  5. nacho

    September 28, 2011 at 12:51 pm

    First of all this article is horribly written. Whoever your English teachers are should LITERALLY be crucified to set an example. I’m not sure what irritates me more, your structure, or your arrogance(Go ahead and dump on mine, I didn’t go to school for writing, nor am I writing a piece “professionally”).

    Second of all I’m not sure you are aware but “journalism” is a dying profession, which leads to: Thirdly you will probably be living at home with your parents when you are 30 because you spent $150k to get a useless degree. You are cute, but not enough to carry you into an actual career in journalism; especially running with premises like “old guys are creepy” to paraphrase this entire article.

    Fourthly you are EXACTLY the kind of girl who 10 years from now will exclusively date guys 10+ years older than you (when you are still living at home with your parents) because everyone else isn’t successful enough or “mature” enough.

    Fifthly, when you graduate from college is EXACTLY the time to creep around your alma mater. College girls are (excuse me while I generalize) shallow, materialistic, and stuck up. Now you’ve got what they are looking for: time to work out, nice clothes, money, possessions, and status as a college graduate with a job which is technically a few steps ahead of unemployed college student in the heirarchy of achievement. You’ve spent 4 years putting up with college girl attitudes, time to come back and reap your reward.

    Sixthly, if creepy old men weren’t succeeding they wouldn’t be creeping. Maybe your next piece should convince college girls that they shouldn’t hook-up with guys who aren’t in college.

    And lastly: I literally went to my first show at Toad’s about the time you were conceived (they have all-ages shows). You are coming to MY bar, not the other way around.

    • QU grad

      September 28, 2011 at 3:35 pm

      Nacho do you really think your qualified to comment on anything regarding the english languague. Aslo judging by your last comment your clearly over 40 which means you should be at work and not commenting on a college newspapers opinion piece, but I assume you were probably fired from you job for creeping on underaged girls on facebook during work hours becuase if you are really so offended by a college girl writing an article about why guys like you shouldnt be around college campus then you are seriously a creepy guy. Not to mention that is one hell of a sweaping generalization to say all college girls are shallow and materialistic lets be serious how many college girls do you know…I mean how many conscious college girls have you known…probably none so chill out and grow up.

      • Seriously? - Alum 2010.

        September 28, 2011 at 5:32 pm

        What convinced you enough to try and write a rebuttal to someone whose defense was not only clearly constructed but also grammatically correct (for the most part).

        You might want to go through the grammar-mill when “your” (it’s YOU’RE) attempting to sound more intelligent and worldly than the now-esteemed Nacho. Viva Nacho Libre.

        Also, you do realize that you came off way more spiteful than the now beloved Nacho, correct? If anything, I’m going to make the general assumption that you were among the many of the undeserved alum who were bestowed their commencement rites from good ol’ Mount Carmel and now spend the majority of their time perusing Craigslist casual encounters.

        Memo to you: calm down.

    • Lenny Neslin

      September 28, 2011 at 4:15 pm

      “You are cute, but not enough to carry you into an actual career in journalism”

      You should be ashamed of yourself. That statement is not only creepy, but also incredibly rude. And if you read her outstanding article on George Buahin a couple of weeks ago, you wouldn’t be so quick to judge.

      You say journalism is a dying field. So that means you believe in a few years there won’t be any news outlets? The need for news to be reported will always exist, and that is our field.

      Lastly, you say Nicole’s article was “horribly written.” I’m pretty sure anyone will agree her article used far better prose than your comment.

  6. QU grad

    September 28, 2011 at 1:08 pm

    Lets be honest Katie your upset because your one of those creepers still coming back to quinnipiac hitting on freshmen boys because you couldn’t find a job and real life got too scary for you. Maybe you should have spent a little less time making meaningful relationships and a little more time studying. Personally the economy is just fine for finding jobs if your actually smart and talented but I guess that ship sailed for you at birth… stop freaking out about an opinion article and go apply for a job.

    • tarek

      September 28, 2011 at 2:52 pm

      “Personally the economy is just find for finding jobs if your actually smart and talented”

      According to the National Association for Law Placement’s Employment Report and Salary Survey unemployment for recent law school graduates is at the lowest level in 15 years

      total unemployment is nearly 16% (Thats 3 times full employment)and that doesn’t count people who have decided to stay in school to wait for economic recovery

      2010 Census numbers show that 20-29 unemployment is nearly 33%!

      Black unemployment is at a staggering 17% nationwide, and that number does not include underemployed and discouraged

      You really don’t know what you’re talking about QU Grad

      • QU grad

        September 28, 2011 at 3:41 pm

        I will keep this short tarek because if your so offended by me saying it not that hard it must mean you have found it very difficult. I was extremely successful at QU and because it easily landed a high paying job right out of school it was easy because I am extremely capable and if I can do it why can’t everyone else…oh ya becaues they are to busy complaining and not working.

        • tarek

          September 28, 2011 at 4:27 pm

          (Small correction, law school grad employment is at its lowest level, not unemployment)

          If you are so gifted and highly intelligent, you should be able to recognize your good fortune in a time of economic hardship. I agree with your implication that Quinnipiac’s apparently high rankings are undeserved, yet, this is beside the point. It comes down to a question of luck and areas of expertise. Not all sectors of the market have been effected equally and some people are simply lucky in getting the (relatively) few good jobs out there.

          I personally am not at the stage of finding employment after college, yet I know plenty of people who are and have struggled or gave up and returned to school. Perhaps I am wrong, but you seem to believe we live in some sort of perfect meritocracy, which I find rather misguided.

    • Kate

      September 28, 2011 at 3:03 pm

      Thanks QU Grad but I actually have a job (in my field, which I love), and a great apartment… I also love coming back to QU to visit my friends and the wonderful faculty and staff I worked with during my time there… not creep on freshmen boys.

  7. Cc

    September 28, 2011 at 1:49 pm

    Well said Katie. I think the author needs to stop being so judgemental

  8. QU Soph

    September 28, 2011 at 3:17 pm

    I disapprove of agism. Whats a 4 year difference is the long run?

  9. Quinnipiac Alum '11

    September 28, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    So you’re basically trying to discourage alumni involvement with the school and its activities after they graduated? Give me a break. I graduated from Quinnipiac last May and I have a full-time job. Is that supposed to mean that I shouldn’t be allowed to go visit friends at QU and go out with them? Am I “not moving on with my life?” if I want to go to a bar around Hamden? I don’t understand what gives you the right, as a current student, to discourage others from hanging out around Hamden. You simply don’t have the right to do so, even with your sense of entitlement. I’m sorry but your editor should never have had this published.

    • QU grad

      September 28, 2011 at 3:25 pm

      Did you actually read the article it said nothing about alumni coming back and helping students find jobs and networking. The whole article was clearly about those individuals still creeping around college bars when your no longer a college student. Im sorry if this article offended you because your one of those people hanging around but how about instead of going to creeping around QU on your friday nights meet some people at work if you even have a job (doubtful) and go out with them instead of pathetically hanging around here. Again the article mentions nothing of alumni helping with campus events so chill.

      • Bobcat '11

        September 28, 2011 at 7:56 pm

        Just got home from my full-time job, and reading this article (and your comment on it) disgusts me. First off you aren’t an alumni, so you don’t even know what it is like to be a college graduate yet. Second of all, aside from “networking” and helping students find jobs, there is nothing wrong with going to a bar back near the college you graduated from to party. I didn’t know that trying to meet girls a year younger than you that are still in college was “creeping”. Maybe you just aren’t having enough fun at QU to understand why people would want to go back. I haven’t been back since I graduated this past May, but I wish I could have visited a couple times already because I have alot of friends still in the school, and because the bars there are more fun than most of the ones that I live close to…so know your place and the fact that you don’t have any right to judge any alumni for visiting their college that they graduated from.

    • QUgrad

      September 28, 2011 at 5:31 pm

      Amen to that my fellow bobcat! Also from the class of ’11 and now currently a grad student at QU…I’m 22 so am I not allowed to go out to bars that 21 year olds go to?

  10. Alumni

    September 28, 2011 at 3:22 pm

    Apparently all this girl does at Quinnipiac is drink since I see no mention of Alumni coming back to volunteer at events and giving back to their community. Check your ignorance at the door to the real world because no, you don’t get it. And with that attitude towards your community i hope for your sake you figure it out soon.

  11. Quinnipiac Alum '11

    September 28, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    The title clearly states, “Alumni: keep your distance from QU.” What kind of message is that supposed to send? No, I’m not talking about every Friday night going to QU but what if you live in the area- are you not supposed to go to the local bars? The whole article is ridiculous and obviously there is something wrong with it if it has offended this many people.

  12. Michael Mukasey

    September 28, 2011 at 3:41 pm

    “The truth is he doesn’t have a room because he already graduated, and he’s really just crashing at his younger friend’s place who’s still a Quinnipiac student.”

    Sounds to me like Ms. Fano was tricked into going back with a grad student last weekend.

    • QU grad

      September 28, 2011 at 3:46 pm

      Yo dumbass grad students are still qu students, therefore still GO to quinnipiac and clearly are not what Ms. Fano is talking about. Try forming an actual thought before commenting next time.

      • Michael Mukasey

        September 28, 2011 at 3:55 pm

        You clearly understand what I was implying. I’ll correct my previous statement, she was picked up by a graduate who she thought was an undergrad and is now venting.

      • QUgrad

        September 28, 2011 at 5:39 pm

        Grad students are still alumni…we all receive alumni emails/event invites sooo clearly we are included in this.

        P.S. Don’t call us dumbass grad students. that’s an oxymoron.

  13. i didn't even go to QU and i'm annoyed.

    September 28, 2011 at 3:42 pm

    Really? I didn’t even go to QU and I find your attitude immature, uninformed, and flat out stupid. Get back to us after you graduate. You’ll understand it then, maybe, if you grow out of this crappy attitude.

    And yeah yeah ok so you said an occasional visit here and there is fine. Sorry, no. Your overall tone and attitude is, as mentioned above, plain awful.

  14. Class of 11 grad

    September 28, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    If some angry alumni come up to you the weekend of Oct. 14th, don’t be surprised.

    • Lenny Neslin

      September 28, 2011 at 4:18 pm

      Did you skip over this part? “Alumni Weekend is a perfectly understandable time to return to the area, and nobody is judged for it. And there is no shame in weekend visits here and there to catch up with old friends.”

  15. QU Alum '11

    September 28, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    I graduated in 2011. I now have a full-time salaried position and am working and living in New York City. I get have the greatest nightlife steps from my apartment and I am surrounded by phenomenal people my own age.

    I come back to Quinnipiac to visit with my friends who are in QU graduate school. I have every right to visit the same bars as underclassman and spend my time socializing with whoever I wish.

    Your claims have NO validity, nor do you have the slightest idea what you’re talking about. Do us all a favor and get your head out of your ass. The only people who can tell me which bars I can and cannot frequent are Dee and the Asian Bouncer at Toads.

    I’d like to see how you feel after you graduate. Your editor should be fired for allowing such an ignorant, immature article for being published.

  16. you suck

    September 28, 2011 at 4:06 pm

    grow up… who even notices whos at toads. youre doing it wrong if you can

  17. John

    September 28, 2011 at 4:21 pm

    You literally have no idea what you are talking about.

  18. Quinnipiac Alum '11

    September 28, 2011 at 4:23 pm

    Did you skip over this part? “Alumni Weekend is a perfectly understandable time to return to the area, and nobody is judged for it. And there is no shame in weekend visits here and there to catch up with old friends.”

    This is not the point. QU students and QU alumni alike should be able to go to whatever bars they want in whatever area they want AND be able to visit their former school whenever they want, without this kind of judgement.

    • Lenny Neslin

      September 28, 2011 at 4:28 pm

      It’s one of her points — how can you just disregard it? Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion and we open our opinion section to any voice.

      • Quinnipiac Alum '11

        September 28, 2011 at 4:34 pm

        Lenny-

        She says, “Alumni Weekend is a perfectly understandable time to return to the area, and nobody is judged for it.” Why should they be judged for it at ANY time? Perhaps some of these people live in the area. It just doesn’t make sense that the author is promoting judging alumni who want to revisit their college and its surrounding bars, which they have every right to do.

        This article is only reinforcing the generalizations that QU’10 Grad spoke of in his comment. Of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion but her article has offended many people and they are also entitled to express their opinions in the comment section.

      • Sorry for intruding

        September 28, 2011 at 8:36 pm

        Oh, so basically Nacho found the errors before you did? Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t it within the EDITOR’S responsibilities to READ and EDIT all the articles in the Chronicle? So, who is the hypocrit now?

  19. QU '10 Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 4:25 pm

    First, your main point of you seeing “several male graduates creeping all over Hamden” is not only sexist but such a rude generalization. I am a male QU grad, does that mean if I’m at a bar in Hamden or New Haven I would labeled as being creepy? All female graduates are allowed to go out in Hamden with out being judged? Believe it or not, not all of us guys are creepy and want to get with you. Personally I tend avoid immature undergrads such as yourself. Secondly, If you seriously think you shouldn’t be in Hamden once you graduate I suggest you never speak to anyone younger than yourself so you don’t run the risk of having friends still in school when you leave.

    Lastly, you clearly don’t “get it”, you actually have no idea. As many of these comments have said, you are going to find out once you graduate, and you’re going to be home, sad, lonely, and want to desperately go back to Hamden and have a good time. Oh wait, you’re a female, I suppose that’s acceptable since you won’t be creepy to anyone.

    • John

      September 28, 2011 at 4:30 pm

      amen

  20. LOL

    September 28, 2011 at 4:31 pm

    ::laughs uncontrollably at author, plans trip to QU::

    • QUgrad

      September 28, 2011 at 5:49 pm

      LMAO!!!!

  21. Class of 2011 Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 4:35 pm

    I landed a good job right out of college. I work full-time and make decent money. And guess what? I moved away from ALL OF MY BEST FRIENDS when I moved out of school.

    If you live in the area, you should be able to go out with your friends. So if you live in Cheshire and all of your friends from your graduating class moved away, but your younger close friends are still at school and in the area, there is no reason why you can’t go out with them.

    I get that there IS such a thing as the weird graduate who hangs around the college and doesn’t move on. I’ve experienced that person. But that’s not what this article is about. YOU clearly stated that ALUMNI should not regularly hang out at the local hot spots. And frankly, I don’t think that’s fair. ESPECIALLY if you live in the area. What, just because you graduated means you can’t go to any of the cool bars anymore? Give me a break. They’re hot spots for a reason, and any of-age adult can go there.

    You should have kept your mouth shut, because no matter what you meant, what you SAID is that alumni are not welcome to hang out with current students.

  22. LOL

    September 28, 2011 at 4:38 pm

    journalist equivalent to an internet troll looking to gain notoriety.

    • umad

      September 28, 2011 at 6:20 pm

      ^this

  23. Alum '11 & Grad kid

    September 28, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    so let me get this straight, you as a claimed reporter are telling QU alum to stay away even though QU thrives on alumni funds?! interesting, let me know how Lahey feels about you telling us to stay away from QU.

    if you were somewhat smart, you definitely stay home alumni weekend cause you’re on Patty’s level of hate and that never works out well.. just saying, idiot

  24. lol

    September 28, 2011 at 4:42 pm

    Huge surprise, people read a Chronicle article and grossly misinterpret the content of it. Par for the course!

    • Quinnipiac Alum '11

      September 28, 2011 at 4:51 pm

      No one is misinterpreting this article. People are just annoyed at what she is saying, word for word. She is talking very generally about graduates and saying that they are unwelcome and should “keep their distance from QU.” Passages such as “Don’t show up for Halloween, don’t show up for St. Patrick’s Day, and, most definitely, please do not show up for May Weekend. Unfortunately, you no longer have the right to call it an official Quinnipiac holiday” are bound to upset people. Who is she to say what alumni can and cannot do?

    • Michael Mukasey

      September 28, 2011 at 4:51 pm

      A terrible choice of title will lead to misinterpretation. Journalism 101

  25. Hansel

    September 28, 2011 at 4:45 pm

    Wittingly or not, Fano is an adherent to a trendy journalism which holds the merits of an article are based entirely on it’s reach. To the post journalism journalist – Integrity, logic, morality be damned; it’s numbers and responses which give an article it’s value. Head count over content rules the day.

    • LOL

      September 28, 2011 at 5:03 pm

      so you’re saying good journalism is no more than nonsense trolling. ok enjoy your career and TMZ.

      • Hansel

        September 28, 2011 at 8:21 pm

        But I never said anything about “good journalism”.

  26. Bobby Cozz

    September 28, 2011 at 4:46 pm

    Is this the same girl who wrote that article about how girls should not wear Uggs, Leggings, and Northfaces??????? hahaha

    • Phil Nobile

      September 28, 2011 at 10:35 pm

      No

  27. QU Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 4:54 pm

    For everyone who is reading the title and making sweeping gestures about the entire article from one line your idiots. A title is merely to grab attention which it clearly did. Its not meant for you to read and assume you know everything that is to follow. The New York post wrote and article title Obama Beats Weiner so did you all go around saying Obama was touching himself…no cause it’s just a title, so learn to read, actually read the article, then comment.

  28. Some Stupid Alumni

    September 28, 2011 at 4:56 pm

    I’ll be at QU for Halloween. Deal with it.

  29. Sorry for Reading this 3rd grade article

    September 28, 2011 at 5:12 pm

    Some students shouldn’t write in any paper and it is articles like this that proves to the world why they belong in the downstairs of FOB in campus copy making copies all day. Everyone deals and has dealt with the same problems, if you it bothers you to this extent..transfer.

  30. Sorry for Reading this 3rd grade article

    September 28, 2011 at 5:14 pm

    Hey Nicole, you complained* about attire and alumni..what is next that too many girls are going to the gym?

  31. alex

    September 28, 2011 at 5:15 pm

    Are you KIDDING me?? This girl has got to be a freshman. Get out in the real world. This has to be the most ignorant article I’ve ever read. Typical of the Chronicle to post it.

  32. Fairy Godmother

    September 28, 2011 at 5:16 pm

    I think everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion. Nicole has stated hers and we have the opportunity to share our own here in this thread. Let’s not start a name-calling war because of differences in our views.
    @Nicole- “Creeps” are everywhere. Are a few of the people that qualify as creeps alumni? Yes, its possible, but its probably only a few. I think everyone is upset because the article comes off as “we don’t want alumni around here and they are all creepy”. I know that is not what you said or meant but I think this is how people are interpreting it. I know that you mentioned the “acceptable reasons for graduates to return” and that “there is no shame in weekend visits here and there” but then you go on to say:
    “Don’t show up for Halloween, don’t show up for St. Patrick’s Day, and, most definitely, please do not show up for May Weekend. Unfortunately, you no longer have the right to call it an official Quinnipiac holiday.”
    These big events and holidays are opportunities for alumni to reconnect and make these QU traditions bigger and better. Big schools like UCONN have alumni constantly going back to participate in big events like these all the time and it only strengthens school spirit and enhances tradition.
    I am a recent Alum, I graduated in May. I have not come back to visit QU yet but I intend to. The only opportunity I might have is May Weekend because the rest of the year I have work obligations. May Weekend had somewhat of a comeback at York Hill last year, but honestly, it’s not what it used to be. Quite frankly, you need alumni presence because alumni are the only ones that truly know what a real May Weekend is. Without them, the tradition will die. Food for thought.
    Also, just wanted to make a remark about “…someone who has graduated from college shouldn’t be driving back to school every weekend to creep on younger girls”. Do I do this? No. But age is just a number and it is perfectly acceptable for someone 2-3 years out of college(making them 23-24) to hookup with a junior or senior in college. It’s a natural attraction and age doesn’t mean anything. Whatever attempts, efforts, extremes, etc. people go through to find love or just a random hookup is their choice. Let’s not judge.
    Nicole, I hope you continue to pursue journalism. You have probably already learned that people are not going to like what you say. It’s a tough gig, but my advice to you would be to just be CLEAR in your message. Also, be careful when you are judging a certain group of people publicly like you do in the 3rd to last paragraph, especially if your name and face are attached to it. Good luck and I look forward to reading more articles written by you :)

  33. Graduated Last Semester

    September 28, 2011 at 5:26 pm

    I graduated last semester and now I’m pursuing my masters at a university nearby QU. I am only 21 and I live in this area, why can I not be allowed to see a lot of my friends who are still in their undergraduate years? Furthermore….why would anyone still be hanging around Hamden on the weekends unless they lived nearby? There are so many flaws in the premise of this article, maybe you’ll understand them when you graduate and find out what it’s like on the other side. Until then, let people live and be free and stop being corny. PEACE!

  34. QU grad 11

    September 28, 2011 at 5:28 pm

    It just sounds like your bitter that the bars are packed and you cant get a drink when you go out…its called a pregame

    seriously though we come back to visit friends and if you haven’t noticed there are different “alumni” weekends for all different kinds of organizations that we belonged to during our time as an undergrad.Let me repeat they may not be on THE alumni weekend. So if we want to grab drinks with our friends at the bars we enjoy…lets us

  35. Marissa

    September 28, 2011 at 5:30 pm

    I cannot wait until you graduate and you become that “creeper”.

  36. hahhahaha

    September 28, 2011 at 5:33 pm

    are you really trying to tell alumni they should ‘keep their distance’ from QU/Hamden? I don’t think Roberto or Dee will like this guys

    This girl obviously has not enjoyed her four years as much as most QU students do/should. For that, I am sorry, However; this weekend I will leave my (own) apartment (where my parents are not) and will buy you a drink (this girl obviously needs a drink) and we can chat about my master’s degree and (pretty damn good) job.

    You are right. College is only 4 years. My college years have come and gone..but does that mean the fun needs to stop?

    Sorry for partying.

  37. Katherine

    September 28, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    I’m an undergad at UConn and even I find this article offensive.

  38. Student

    September 28, 2011 at 5:46 pm

    Hey Nicole, put the note pad down, you are at toads…loserrrr

  39. Deez Nuts

    September 28, 2011 at 5:47 pm

    Someone just go ahead and impregnate this girl already. #Pregnant and ignorant

  40. QU '10 Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    Hey QU Alumni, who wants to throw a party with me on the Quad? Sorry undergrads, you can not come.

    • LOL

      September 28, 2011 at 7:20 pm

      alumni to crash bagels and booze!? i think so!

  41. Frannie

    September 28, 2011 at 5:52 pm

    First of all, personal attacks on either the author of the article or other people commenting is incredibly immature, can we all please move beyond that and simply debate our opinions?

    Second of all, I understand that obviously anybody has a right to go wherever they want, and alumni are welcome at most QU events. Additionally, they are an important part of the Quinnipiac community.
    That being said, I agree with Nicole that it is a bit weird when certain alumni come to the local college bars (one person above referred to them as “all the cool bars” but let’s be real. None of our bars are actually “cool bars,” they are merely fun college bars) on a frequent basis. By all means alumni should stop by every once in awhile to see old friends and visit their old hangouts, but it is weird to be at these bars every weekend once you have graduated. They are very clearly Quinnipiac bars more than they are local bars. I cannot imagine wanting to hang out at any of these bars after I graduate on a frequent basis when they are so populated by undergrads.

    Nicole is right, it does feel like these people are not moving on with their lives. And as some people have pointed out, it is difficult for us as undergrads to understand what they all feel post-graduation. I can’t understand exactly what that is like at this point, but I can tell you that this is how some people feel about your attendance at these bars. It does make us uncomfortable at times because it is supposed to be our time as seniors to be at those bars and have that experience. I know it isn’t fair for me to feel this, but honestly, it feels intrusive when alumni are constantly at those bars. You had your time, let us have ours.

    Thanks, Nicole, for voicing a controversial point of view. You definitely aren’t alone in your observations.

  42. QU Alum

    September 28, 2011 at 5:59 pm

    First of all, the fact that this is considered an article is disturbing. You exemplify the stereotypical, ignorant undergraduate who clearly has nothing too important to worry about. Try graduating first, continuing with a masters, law or med. degree, find a real job and be on your own and then you might understand what it’s like to be an adult. If you have such issues with older guys or girls for that matter ( based on your title ), perhaps you should stop hanging around them. Oh, and your comment about May weekend is no longer ours? With the amount of money alumni owe in loans, we are basically providing you May Weekend,so you’re welcome and yes- it belongs to all Quinnipiac students, graduated or not.

  43. Shotgun

    September 28, 2011 at 6:06 pm

    MASSIVE QU BANG SESH!

  44. John S.

    September 28, 2011 at 6:08 pm

    With the amount of disgruntled alums commenting on the article I can only say this: This article was written from someone’s opinion and does not reflect the entire undergraduate community. I used to work in the alumni institute at QU here as a student worker and I can honestly say that they stress alumni are always welcomed back to QU in any capacity that they want. That being said, if you want to go to Whitbag, Toads, Aunchie’s, or even Dicks then go for it. Don’t let this article discourage you.

    • bob cat

      September 28, 2011 at 6:32 pm

      so how about those B-ball players. Shouldnt they be kicked out of school? beating up kids, what up w/ that? they should be at least kicked out of school untill the court decides what to do w/ em.

  45. J

    September 28, 2011 at 6:15 pm

    Everyone is blowing this article way out of proportion. While some of the comments may have been distasteful, she is not attacking ALL alumni or saying they “aren’t allowed” on campus. The bottom line is she’s right. Once you graduate, get a career, get a job and stop coming back to your old university multiple times a month and hanging out at college bars. It’s not an issue if alumni come back a once or twice a year to visit friends but some people really need to move on. That is the point she tried to convey in the article and unfortunately she said some comments that people are taking the wrong way. Everyone attacking her needs to relax and realize that this isn’t an attack on all alumni, it’s just an observation about a select few people.

    • Another Alum

      September 28, 2011 at 7:17 pm

      Actually, she didn’t say “a few people.” She’s talking about every single person who’s graduated.

    • Hansel

      September 28, 2011 at 8:34 pm

      “college bars”? careful, you’re speaking more about your own sense of exlusivity than about reality. Unless a bar is on campus and requires a student ID for admission, it’s not a college bar. It’s an all too prevalent elitism to imagine that people in any bar shouldn’t be there because of your prejudicial tastes and social mores.

  46. Shotgun

    September 28, 2011 at 6:18 pm

    Get bent everyone!!!

  47. this is a dumb argument

    September 28, 2011 at 6:24 pm

    I am a 21 year old female senior…I have friends that just graduated last year who are in the area because they found a job nearby. They have every right to go to whatever bar or club they want to…where ever they want to. That’s what happens when you turn 21. On the other hand…the 17 yr old girl shouldn’t be at Toads…that’s illegal.

    Girls should also be smart enough to maybe ask the question “Hey, do you go here?” if they are that worried about going home with someone who doesn’t currently go to QU.

    And by the way…bars aren’t only there for the college kids. They are open to the general public as well. I have seen numerous people who are definitely not in college enjoying their free wings at Sidestreet on Tuesdays, and they have every right to be there, as much as the graduates and as much as the undergrads who are 21 do as well.

    The end.

  48. Dear Nicole

    September 28, 2011 at 6:28 pm

    I mean honestly Nicole, you probably should have used the time it took you to wrote this and sat back and examined your life. I mean first off, just because the only guys who probably approached you this fall have been those types of guys. Dont judge all of them in the same way, you did well attracting a lot of views for this article, but you just lost credibility. This is sad to see, poor journalism.

  49. Sorry for intruding

    September 28, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    First off, as a guy who has recently graduated from QU, I will assure you Miss Fano that the majority of us x-college bros do not go after women at your maturity level. As you’ll one day find out, some guys actually enjoy having an intelligent conversation with woman that he has an interest in, and will not judge her by looks alone. So based off the content in your article (grammar and all), I guarantee that you will never have to worry about being “creeped on” by an alumni such as myself unless Hell freezes over, pigs fly, and construction at QU comes to an end.

    Secondly, as many of my fellow graduates have mentioned, Alumni presence is crucial for the development of any university. I’m not just referring to the connections they provide, but they’re tendencies to return to campus says something positive about the university and what it stands for. I can honestly say that if it weren’t for the relationships I made with some of the QU alum during my freshmen and sophomore year, I may have transfered.

    • Justin

      September 28, 2011 at 7:23 pm

      Wow you are a real tough guy hiding behind a fake name where no one knows who you are bashing a person you don’t even know. Try pasting your picture online and writing an opinion about something and then see what its like. What have you done that allows you to trash a person about things you have no idea about. Have you ever talked to this girl how would you know how intelligent she is. Its one article read some of her other articles she also wrote an amazing peice on George Buahin who lost his mother and hundreds of people liked and your gonna sit here and bash her off of a few words. Honestly your pathetic and short sited. Oh and she will never be hit on by you because someone like you who is this nasty to a girl while hiding behind a fake name doesn’t have the balls to hit on any one.

      • Sorry for intruding

        September 28, 2011 at 8:29 pm

        Wow, you really showed me. I’ll ignore the fact that you obviously have some bias towards Nicole. So first, I’m in no way insulting her intelligence, just her maturity. I have no doubt that her piece on George Buahin was well thought out and well written, but her attitude towards alumni is insulting. If she has a problem with a particular person, she should confront them personally or talk to someone else about it. By bashing from QU students in QU’s official student newspaper, she is only alienating a group of people who continue to boost the university’s repuation.

        If Nicole is seriously considering journalism as a career, she needs to become accustomed to this type of criticism. Not everyone will like her work, especially when she makes absurd generalizations like that. I will admit, she knows how to attract attention to her work, but she needs to understand that negative feedback is part of the job. Get use to it. And as for the last line in your comment, I myself have no problem talking to women (I actually have a girlfriend; probably should have clarified that before). However, if I were single, I would most certainly avoid girls who are so judgmental and arrogant to the point where they tell QU alumni when it is appropriate to return to their own university. Who the hell are you calling short sited and pathetic???

        p.s., if you’re so tough, where’s your last name justin?

  50. QU alumni

    September 28, 2011 at 6:42 pm

    I just hope that the apology article that will be printed in next weeks chronicle will be better written than this. This is why President Lahey wanted to censor your “freedom of press” so that articles this ignorant and asinine wouldn’t get published.

  51. Shana Tova!

    September 28, 2011 at 6:45 pm

    She wrote this article for the lulz. Quinnipiac students just got clowned. #Antiswag.

    • W.B. Jones

      September 28, 2011 at 7:34 pm

      LOL. She just brought so much traffic to the website. Good for her!

  52. Jd

    September 28, 2011 at 6:59 pm

    I hope you never visit quinnipiac when you graduate, pick a different topic to write about next time

  53. Dan

    September 28, 2011 at 7:03 pm

    hahah wow Nicole Fano, could you be anymore of a loser? Worry about your own life. I don’t think it says “Quinnipiac’s Aunt Chilada’s” or “QU’s Toad’s Place”, people have the right to go wherever they like.

    You could not come off any more pretentious in this article and you have presented a gross generalization which is quite revealing of your character.

    I sincerely hope you graduate and never associate yourself with the university again.

  54. Joe

    September 28, 2011 at 7:11 pm

    Wow.

    Let me just say a few things. If you are a Journalism major, you’ll be hanging out at QU until your 60 because you will NEVER GET A JOB if you keep writing crap like this.

    I havent been back to QU once since I graduated two years ago. This article in no way reflects me. I’M STILL OFFENDED….

  55. Another Alum

    September 28, 2011 at 7:15 pm

    Way to make sweeping generalizations about every single alumni ever. We’re not ALL creepy, you know. This “fabulous” op/ed is why no one has considered the QU Chronicle a legitimate college newspaper in years and everyone reads QUAD News instead.

    • W.B. Jones

      September 28, 2011 at 7:40 pm

      LOL. The Chronicle does just fine. The amount of page views this article generated alone is sure to make the org even more money from advertisers.

      Thanks for the traffic!

      • Another Alum

        September 28, 2011 at 8:04 pm

        Money/traffic doesn’t equal legitimacy. Work on your snark before you send your resume to Gawker, pal!

      • hahaha

        September 28, 2011 at 10:12 pm

        HAHA. Do you know how much money internet advertising makes?

        Chronicle is probably pulling something like… 30 cents per 1,000 visits.

        Yeah… this article made them a couple bucks.

  56. umm...

    September 28, 2011 at 7:21 pm

    isn’t your boyfriend a graduate student? does he count as one of the people creeping?

    • Justin

      September 28, 2011 at 7:47 pm

      Yes he is but he graduated in 3 years and is doing a 1 year MBA he probably deserves a fourth year but your probably right umm…not… Not to mention she clearly isn’t refering to grad students. Also I don’t think someones bf can creep on their gf. But you clearly can’t read well so I will let this one slide.

  57. 2009 Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 7:24 pm

    As a 2009 (female) grad, this is appalling. I just got another letter in the mail asking for a donation. Now that I’ve seen this article, I’ll think twice. I don’t feel quite too willing to support rude undergraduates.

    1) Broad generalizations are not acceptable for professional headlines.

    2) Do your research. That new dorm building? Partially funded by alumni donations. That new lab equipment? Probably partially funded by alumni donations. If you want better equipment in your classrooms, don’t alienate the alumni. Also, find out how often alumni are emailed/ mailed invitations to come back. I get one at least twice a month, if not more often. Alumni also purchase tickets to sporting events, and those are not cheap. The revenue from that also funds the great technology you have in your classroom, as well as your dorm cleaning lady.

    3) Be careful with those broad negative generalizations, because graduates may not be so willing now to help you get a job. This is probably already on LinkedIn.

    4) I’m sure the local businesses don’t appreciate your article either, because those of us with jobs that pay more than $11/hour spend more at those businesses, and generate more profit for them. Also, some of your local businesses are RUN by QU alumni and don’t appreciate the name-calling.

    I believe this article would’ve been more appropriate for your LiveJournal rather than a college newspaper that is distributed to alumni who actively donate to QU.

    Nicole, there are “creepers” of all ages, not just those of us who are over 21. That is life. If there really is a problem, tell a bar staff member.

    • Agree!

      September 28, 2011 at 9:42 pm

      Yes to that whole statement.

  58. W.B. Jones

    September 28, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    Alumni making personal attacks on Nicole should be ashamed. Really? Did she run over your dog? Jesus. Get over it.

    There’s a reason this was posted in OPINION.

    Nicole, I know the types of people you are talking about, and I agree wholeheartedly.

    Alumni are more than welcome back during Alumni weekends and the occassional every so often, but it IS creepy to see the same people weekend after weekend who are NOT grad students and live out of state still coming here to party all the time.

  59. 2011 Grad

    September 28, 2011 at 7:46 pm

    “Truthfully, the 17-year-old girl can look like she’s 21 with a great push-up bra and a really good fake ID. And no graduate wants to be in that awkward position when he tries to bring the girl back to his room at the end of the night.”

    Excellence in journalism….

  60. pissedgrad

    September 28, 2011 at 7:52 pm

    I am a recent graduate of QU. My girlfriend still has one semester left at QU, thus I visit frequently. Am I a creeper? Do I have to stay away because you say so? This chick sucks. This article never should have been published. Rude. Ignorant. And a terribly written article. I could fart on a piece of paper and it would turn out better than this garbage

  61. Sarah Smith

    September 28, 2011 at 7:56 pm

    To all of you bashing this article, this is not necessary. The author of this article was not trying to offend anyone, it was supposed to be a comical opinion piece. Everyone is taking it to the extreme and reading it in the wrong way. I believe that the author was trying to make a joke about how it could be awkward to see older students coming back to the QU party scene. That’s it. Attacking the author of this article is completely unnecessary and downright wrong. You are making personal attacks when it is unnecessary. Please keep this in mind when you go to write a comment, because the author has feelings too. The article was supposed to be a lighthearted piece of journalism so please stop the harassment. Thank you.

    • Hansel

      September 28, 2011 at 8:38 pm

      As Fano’s humor requires an apologist with a lengthy explanation, she’s not much a a satirist is she? Have you considered working for Michael Richards?

  62. Wait a minute

    September 28, 2011 at 7:58 pm

    Aside from this article being grossly judgmental and incredibly disrepectful to fellow Alum, I have a few points of my own.
    1. Yes people are entitled to their opinions but making very generalized statements about a mass of people is very unprofessional.
    2. Have you considered that previous graduates have family that attends the school? I myself have a sister and I visit her frequently on weekends and stay with her sometimes. So that makes me creepy? Or others for doing the same because the motel across the street is creepier than the Toads basement bathroom.
    2. Older dudes who creep on young girls is gross but are you checking everyone’s ID ? Or do you know every Alum that every graduated from QU? For that matter are you then following them back to campus to see where they are sleeping? Pretty investigative reporting.
    I think you should just do a nice piece on Java John and call it a day. Maybe start an effort to clean Hepatitis Creek and leave your rude comments for girl talk over a nice sandwich from Ray and Mikes.

  63. current graduate student

    September 28, 2011 at 8:07 pm

    Tomorrow when you’re walking around campus…stop in admissions and pick up a catalog. Clearly you know nothing about the university that you attend and the extensive list of Graduate Programs that QU offers. “Plain and Simple:” There are over 2000 graduate students attending QU right now that have the same rights to go out and enjoy themselves as you do. They are working harder on a daily basis than you and should not be criticized for being seen in the area. Good luck networking with the alumni and trying to find a job in journalism…no but really, who do you think you are?

  64. Bad Choice

    September 28, 2011 at 8:10 pm

    I can’t believe you allowed your picture to be published along with this article.

  65. FrostyNipples

    September 28, 2011 at 8:15 pm

    Well, now I know where to go to find drunk 17 year olds. Woooop

  66. Kelly

    September 28, 2011 at 8:22 pm

    Dear QU,

    Im surprised that you are letting this run as the majority of sponsorships and donations to the University come from Alumni. If you are getting grants or scholarships keep in mind that I am helping to pay for those. If you are living in new dorms or working in the new Labs or have classes on North Campus, please don’t waste the tuition that I will be paying for until im 30 with such disrespect. I have personally donated money to numerous clubs and programs throughout the 3 years that I have been a graduate. I understand that this is an opinion column but still believe that you are forgetting the importance of the past students. Without alumni returning to campus how would students know now about the “Rat” still being called the Rat; or that it used to be the campus bar? No current student would know about that unless it was passed from previous alumni down.
    Also, In regards to may weekend, what may weekend? I was on campus when there were beer tents and Hill campus was shut down to all other undergrads. I highly doubt many alumni especially the 30+ year olds being attacked want to come back to a mediocre party held by QU security when there are plenty of other places to be.
    Many of the clubs pride themselves on how long they have been on campus and how much they have achieved in their time. To tell them that their alumni should travel from other states to support them but then that we cannot go out and remenicse at the local bar is unfair and hypocritical. Majority of my friends who are still alumni travel from all over the country to come back for individual events and I remember as an undergraduate it made me think how great my time would be at Quinnipiac that I would WANT to come back when I am an adult, and that I would be WELCOMED back.
    As an alumni I also was offered a job in Hamden, CT and was there for 2 years post-college not as a graduate student and I would like to know where in Hamden/New Haven you are expecting 21+ adults to go; while I can understand not having alumni going to aunchies other than on alumni weekend then why cant we as alumni ask that undergrads not be allowed to attend on our weekend? While I was living in CT I did experience other bar scenes but the availability for cabs farther outside the city becomes costly and encourages drunk driving.
    Lastly, if you are able to pick out the same people when you go out each weekend and are willing to spend the time to write an article about them, id like to know if your even having fun when going out? The people who are out all of the time at these bars are the ones who return to those same bars, and for those people who are seen every weekend, how do you know if they are or are not graduate students there to further their education.
    If you have that much of a problem with these graduate students come back to party, you have personal living situations that you can stay in and they even have liquor stores that deliver now. I would keep this opinion to yourself before it gets posted for all alumni to see.

  67. Keri

    September 28, 2011 at 8:30 pm

    I just HAD to comment on this as a QU journalism major and former newspaper reporter. I’m going to make an educated guess and say that this piece is either an editorial or a column, NOT an article. Articles are supposed to be unbiased, while editorials and columns are opinion pieces. She stated her opinion + many people are reacting with their opinion = successful column/editorial writing. Just because one does not agree with her opinion does not mean the piece should not have been published. I am not going to go into detail about her writing skills regarding grammar and Associated Press style, but let’s give this young student a break- she is learning. Easy tigers…or should I say, easy bobcats.

  68. Mr. Swollen Chode

    September 28, 2011 at 8:33 pm

    After dropping over $150,000 at Quinnipiac I think I should have the right to visit on weekends to keep up with old friends and have a good time without having some on the rag feminist tell me I can’t walk into a bar I’ve spent a good amount of time and money at over the past 4 years. However, I think we would all appreciate if you didn’t visit the bars ever again.

  69. QU JR

    September 28, 2011 at 8:48 pm

    I’m just curious, does this girl know every single QU alum and happen to know that they come back frequently to creep? She recognizes everyone at the bars and knows exactly who has been there every weekend. I think this article is extremely arrogant.

    • QU JR

      September 28, 2011 at 8:55 pm

      But OK, I’ll tell my boyfriend not to come visit me on St. Patricks Day, Halloween, and May Weekend. Just because you said it’s creepy for alumni to come.

  70. youareallridiculous

    September 28, 2011 at 8:50 pm

    All of you should be ashamed of yourselves. You clearly DO NOT understand the meaning of an opinion. The fact that you all graduated from QU amazes me. Nicole was not bashing anyone for visiting siblings/boyfriends/girlfriends who still go to QU. It is the people who refuse to work after they graduate and continue to party…How did you not understand that? How do you all expect to succeed in life if one comment like this drives you off the wall?

  71. ilikenicole

    September 28, 2011 at 8:51 pm

    yo nicole….can i have yo numba???

  72. Lenny Neslin

    September 28, 2011 at 9:00 pm

    Any comments that are abusive, threatening or attack the author or other commenters will not be tolerated. Feel free to express yourself in the comments, and remember that everyone is entitled to his or her opinion.

    -Lenny Neslin
    Editor-in-Chief

  73. rando

    September 28, 2011 at 9:01 pm

    I can’t wait for your future employers to see your full name and photo attached to this article. Those people defending this article are hiding behind the “opinion” aspect, but just because something is opinion doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to have journalistic integrity. “Opinion” doesn’t excuse how poorly written and uninformed this article is.

    Switch your major, because you just destroyed any shot at a journalistic career you may have had. You should probably transfer too, considering alumni weekend is two weeks away.

    I’d also be curious to know how old you are. If you’re not 21, you don’t have the right to be telling ANYONE to stay out of your bars. And even if you are 21, that doesn’t make you any more entitled.

  74. mike

    September 28, 2011 at 9:11 pm

    Wow, all this attention from an article that simply expresses one person’s opinion? I am a law school graduate. I know good writing.

    One of the goals of media is to generate attention and to sensationalize a topic or issue. This article obviously accomplished its goal. This author’s professors should be proud of her.

    Lighten up people. One person’s opinion need not garner such vicious comments.

    While the article may have been “spirited,” that is a sign of a good writer who has drawn in her readers and managed to effectuate animated discussions on a topic garnering myriad opinions.

  75. goodness gracious

    September 28, 2011 at 9:16 pm

    John Lahey will not be very happy with you Nicole.

  76. so dumb.

    September 28, 2011 at 9:20 pm

    any student that attends or attended qu has every right to be there and visit whenever they please. i get this is your opinion, but when you give your opinion you need to expect approval as well as backlash.

    unfortunately your opinion is rude, judgmental and is not even remotely based on fact..i think that is clear with the comments you are receiving.

    also, good call on taking your picture down.

  77. Phil Hersnatch

    September 28, 2011 at 9:26 pm

    Is this girl for real? Everyone knows ray and mikes is where you pick up the hottest chicks in town BUFFF CHICKKK

  78. mimi

    September 28, 2011 at 9:32 pm

    Well, the writer certainly accomplished her goal!

    The overwhelming response is actually comical – and therefore ironic as this piece is clearly a satire. Have any of you “graduates” ever read Jonathan Swift???

    Try googling him – and then sit back and laugh that you are taking yourselves this seriously. I agree, the title of this piece should have been more lighthearted, as well as all the comments that have followed.

    Seems to me that “graduates” should realize that bullying and victimizing the author is a major faux pas in today’s world. In this country we have a right to express an opinion – many a truth is said in jest – and this has clearly hit a chord, but a cordial discourse would certainly be more fitting for ANY Quinnipiac Alumni.

    • rando

      September 28, 2011 at 10:14 pm

      Based on the overall poor writing quality of this article, I highly doubt that the author was going for “satire” or trying to write a literary work of art.

      …And I’m also an English minor.

      Nice try though.

  79. Christina

    September 28, 2011 at 9:33 pm

    This is terribly written. Hope you’re not a journalism student at QU. yikes. And while I went to QU, am not 30 yet, and don’t live at home, who are you to judge people who live at home at all? You might find yourself in that predicament someday; preferably not when you are married with 3 children and one on the way. I guarantee you will visit Quinnipiac once or twice after you graduate. Why are there a set of rules for any person’s behaviors? Everyone is different. And “law school graduate,” as a dual degree student/MSN, this is extremely poorly written. Aside from the fact that alumni paychecks go to support your education, you do not know that these men are not simply just “creeps” from the City of New Haven. This article is God awful. Pipe it. People didn’t suck this much when I went there.

  80. Moderately Irritated

    September 28, 2011 at 9:35 pm

    Ok, I’m pretty sure we all understand that this title was to get us interested and intrigued. Well you did just that and irritated a lot of people… the problem is, your article is so blah that you had to have a title like this. I am sure you’re a great writer, person blah blah blah all that. No dissing no bad mouthing just being honest.

    What I’m saying, that as an alumni I am offended that you would use such a title. So many of my fellow alumni have gone back to QU to speak at events or help out on different projects. I’m not sure what’s so terrible about going out to grab a drink (or a few more than that) with some friends.

    The reality is, if these ‘creepers’ are giving you and other young women (and men?) so many problems, then stand up for yourself and walk away and don’t be another victim of the post-collegiate ‘situation’. (just typing that makes me grossed out).

    I will also say, this is one hell of a marketing pull to the chronicle’s website, as we know hardly anyone looks at it. The Quad was always far better.

    #justsaying

  81. goodness gracious

    September 28, 2011 at 9:39 pm

    the opinion Nicole wrote about is libel. she wrote down offensive words about the alumni. the more I read it, the more frustrated I get, and I’m a senior, I can’t even imagine how the alumni must feel.

  82. Lou

    September 28, 2011 at 9:46 pm

    There is enough room on the dance floor for everyone.

  83. Phil Hersnatch

    September 28, 2011 at 9:49 pm

    This article isn’t offensive as much as it is inaccurate. Everybody knows that you’re allowed to keep going back to party until the youngest girl you hooked up with has graduated. So by those standards, I still got another THREE years left to party without Nicole Fano givin’ me lip

  84. 32 yr old who lives at home and parties at Toad's

    September 28, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    Why you gotta be hatin’ on my steeze?

  85. Vince Mercandetti

    September 28, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    You want to know how an alumni feels?

    I’m 24 and I graduated Quinnipiac as a Broadcasting major in 2009. This writer is an embarrassment to the entire School of Communications. Her headline is a complete pile of shit and she can’t have it both ways. Either it’s meant to intrigue and draw in and is inaccurate (the defense a lot of her supporters have stated) which is hokey and lacks integrity, or she really feels the opinion reflected by the headline’s words, which is so off base and ignorant she comes off as a bratty 12-year-old.

    Furthermore, I have a six figure price tag from Quinnipiac and the $6,000 rise in tuition from the time I began to the time I graduated was largely thanks to all of the wonderful improvements Quinnipiac made from 2005-2009; improvements Nicole benefits from every single day, a lot of which come in the school of Communications itself. My class fought just to keep a newspaper on campus with any rights whatsoever to opinion and credibility. The school itself is only 10 years old, any benefit she sees in having QU on her diploma is directly attributed to the graduates before her. Not to mention, QU is a private school largely dependent on alumni endowment and donation, as well as making sure we don’t default on our student loans and continue pumping money into the tools she uses for her own education.

    When I graduated, the economy fell apart, I didn’t move home, I grabbed a 25K job just to support myself and pay my loans. It was in Hamden, CT where I had a good deal on rent. This little entitled brat is going to tell me where I can and cannot go to hang out with friends? She is so far out of her rights she should be shunned from QU altogether.

    She should be thanking me, and any alumni male OR female for what we did to help what she benefits from everyday. I work full-time, I’m salaried, I have a solid paying job now and I’m 24 and single. You don’t want to be hit on as a 17 year old with a fake ID? Don’t break the laws. You don’t want to have to sleep with a 24-year-old dude visiting his old stomping grounds? Don’t sleep with them. Until then stay the fuck out of the chronicle with your bullshit opinions which are both offensive and trite. Nicole is nothing but a whiny little north jersey girl spoiled into invalid opinions and a self of entitlement so large she can’t even recognize who she should be thankful for.

    Oh, and good luck in Journalism, totally unresearched opinion pieces and a massive ego is going to get you about as far as 18K and entry level after two years of unemployment.

    Unless of course you have your parents to help you out. But you wouldn’t then be judging the kids staying at home trying to save up in that case, would you, Nicole?

  86. infinitejester

    September 28, 2011 at 10:04 pm

    This is a horrible article by a horrible journalist, and there’s no excuse for it. Today is the day The Chronicle printed actual garbage.

  87. Journalism?

    September 28, 2011 at 10:16 pm

    Is this what qualifies for journalism these days, a poorly written, unoriginal op-ed piece?
    I worry for the reputation of my degree.
    But honestly, since when did students feel like they own areas of New Haven county? For someone who actually pays taxes to the state of Connecticut & the city of New Haven, I’ll drink whereever I damn please.
    Also, be happy to go to school that has alumni pride. Those alumni donations are what’s helping you have all those lovely Quinnipiac amenities you probably take for granted.

  88. Grad Student

    September 28, 2011 at 10:17 pm

    I’m a QU grad student. I did not go to QU as an undergrad. When I went to Aunt Chilada’s last Friday with my boyfriend. He made a comment to a friend about how him and I were 25 and light heartedly laughed since we were probably older than everyone in the line. The girl behind me said, ‘then maybe you shouldn’t be here…’ Personally, I wanted to go to Auntchi’s because it’s cheap…I like to dance…I know a few people, why not? But for some reason you and other people think that these places belongs to QU undergrads? And that people who go there are desperately trying to relive some glory days?? No, I’m just going to have a good night. I’m not concerned about what you or anyone else thinks when I go out at night. Maybe you should reevaluate.

  89. Just Wait

    September 28, 2011 at 10:20 pm

    just wait until YOU graduate. We’re depressed enough, thanks for the article that makes it even worse.

  90. Regina George

    September 28, 2011 at 10:23 pm

    -Nicole
    1. This article has caused mass chaos in the QU community.
    2. Terrible quality of writing.
    3. karma. good luck getting a job in journalism world after this one.

  91. Giselle

    September 28, 2011 at 10:34 pm

    It is evident that when the author references “graduate” she is referring to one who has graduated and left the university – not “graduate students” who are still attending QU. In addition, I think the author uses the word “alumni” so as not to repeat the word “graduate” and be redundant. It is actually shocking that so many of you cannot read between the lines. This opinion piece in no way reflects the university’s relationship with alumni. When I pick up a People magazine, I know what to expect. When I pick up Time magazine I have different expectations – responsibility lies with the reader – to delve further, dismiss, accept or move on. There is a place for many different types of journalism, and clearly the Chronnicle strives for diversity in its readership. This makes for an interesting read. As a female, I have experienced the “creepers” and this article actually can create a dialogue for a follow up piece on how young girls can protect themselves in New Haven. Good for you Nicole – You go girl!!!!

  92. Can we please discuss?

    September 28, 2011 at 10:58 pm

    Did everyone notice that a 40 year old man commented on this article?

    WHY IS A 40 YEAR OLD MAN READING THE CHRONICLE?

    For realz.

  93. lil' jon

    September 28, 2011 at 11:00 pm

    if you’ve graduated, get the f*** out the club

  94. Moving On

    September 28, 2011 at 11:06 pm

    I don’t agree with the article. I love seeing my friends come back and when I graduate, I definitely plan on making a few trips back to Hamden.

    That being said, some of the comments on this thread are just horrible. Why do you have to be so mean to someone you don’t even know. She was just doing her job, sometimes people mess up. When you messed up, do you really want hundreds of people lashing out on you? She’s probably learned her lesson now and is starting to move on. I think we should all do the same.

    Alumni are always welcomed back at QU, and hopefully we’ll see you soon.

  95. reginaphalange

    September 28, 2011 at 11:08 pm

    Wow, yet another pathetic display of student journalism. So many graduates and current students and staff are trying so hard to make a name for QU in a positive light; whether it’s athletics, technology or academics. And then one arrogant, ignorant girl ruins it all with a pathic rant that will surely do more harm than good. Thanks for perpetuating the negative stereotype associated with so many of our spoiled undergraduates.